Today, I was ambushed.
You know how it goes: you're sitting in a meeting that's going along normally, you mention something that you've done recently, and KAPOW! someone hits you from out of left field. "Actually, that's wrong. It's not like that. It's like this..." Maybe you sit there for a stunned moment. Perhaps you come up with something to say. Or perhaps you go on the warpath... after all, you know you're right!
It can even ruin your day.
What did I do? Well, I told everyone what I understood to be the case, said that I'd check into it, and let it go. Later, I did those things and reported back. There was a time, though, when I would have done one of those other things. In fact, depending on which time you pick, I could have done any of them.
What's made the difference? Choosing my reflection is one key to it.
What do I mean by "choosing my reflection?" Well, are you aware that most people simply reflect their surroundings. To prove it to yourself, starting tomorrow after lunch, greet everyone you meet with, "Good mornin'!" and see what they say. I would bet that at least 50% will say "Good mornin'!" back before they realize that it's not morning.
Why is that?
Because most people are content to simply reflect their surroundings. To being just like everyone else. But you don't have to be. You can be different. You can choose. You can be the one who is reflected instead of the one doing the reflecting. If you're happy, others around you will tend to be happy. If you refuse to complain like everyone else, there will be less and less complaining around you.
You can choose your reflection.
Try it and see.
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